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I love my mom. I guess. She really loves me Went all out as a mom. PTO president, troop leader, took me to after school stuff. Threw me fancy parties. Read me lots of books.Gave me lots of gifts. Give you the shirt off her back type of lady, for sure. Ran a six figure business until my teens! Then it went belly up. Ran it for 10 more years at a loss. I saw her lose a lot of people she loved, from senseless tragedy to old age. Now she is spending her retirement years taking care of her very wealthy older father who throws her tiny scraps of approval, infrequently. He needs help. He fell three years ago, probably shouldn't live alone, is 96, and can't even heat up food without help she's over there two days a week thats all she can apparently do in a week. I can't even come over and fix dinner to try and spend some time with them. Cracks open the first tall boy at 330, then it's a joint, another tall boy, another joint. Every day. I drink a bit more than I want (like three days a week), so I have a hard time judging her. My dad is almost 60 and still runs a remodeling business so he's tired but she's always like " no your dad is too tired for that" I try to get together for holidays and she's like "not unless you come clean my house!" Guys it's a disaster. Cat feces needs scraped off lineoleum. Nick nacks everywhere. Food sits out for months. I'm allergic to the house and get hives. I tried to be her housekeeper as a teen and I think it was the single most factor in destroying my mental health. She has enough dirty laundry in the house to fill the biggest U-Haul. "Wish you'd help me.clean out this closet!" It's a 4,000 square foot house piled to the brim. Dog pee on the carpets. I never had clean towels, never had toilet paper in my swanky bathroom with a marble jacuzzi tub (highlighting the weird dynamic). My stepbrothers room had a crunchy spilled soda pond I spent half a summer trying to fix when he moved out. He lived with us for one year. He was violent, on meth, brought home really scary people. custom built a bass system that was so loud we would all have to leave the house when he wouldn't turn it off. He got in huge physical fights with my dad over things like "time to go to school". So police came and went. He once jacked off on my bed and left the evidence I was 12 years old! He had verrrry noisy sex with his girlfriend all the time in the room across from me, and I'd like ask my parents to help but they wouldnt. They couldn't! He was a violent meth head! He also did weird shit to me when I was a kid, but I like thought that it made me special so I welcomed it. My parents were like "that's just normal kissing cousins stuff!" They would never let me donate any toys or get rid of things or help me clean, so I did start just tossing old crap into one of the guest rooms until it was waist high. (Dad would dig things out of the garbage and put them by my door to tell me it wasn't okay to throw out a messed up/ unwanted toy) so I spent another summer fixing that. I spent 5 hours a day doing housekeeping. They did pay me, minimum wage, which I used to buy all my back to school clothes at the end of the summer. It was just... Soul crushing. And lonely.. I was so lonely in summer. I stayed home while my mom and dad worked (the two step brothers only lived in the house for a year) so alone in the mess from 8-5 m-f then they come home, go smoke in their room, chat, and have a beer until 6.. my mom might fix dinner, might order something, might have oatmeal or something. Then they would watch TV in their room from 7 until they tucked me in at night. They sang me affectionate good night songs until 8th grade though?? Next, I was a moody antisocial teen who started experimenting with drugs so their solution was to keep me from getting in legal trouble by providing the pot themselves. They smoked lots of pot with me when I was a teen and while I'm 420 friendly I don't think smoking out your 15 y/o three to five times a day is healthy. My mom jokes about me knocking on their door "wake and bake!" Ew! I was suicidal, self harming, only loosely tethered to reality in my opinions about the supernatural and also super paranoid (psychotic, I was borderline psychotic, hence being diagnosed with borderline personality disorder in the mental institution (in name only and not officially on my dx sheer thanks to a savvy counselor who didn't want to stick a code on me for life)) I was having sex with like, everyone. Sneaking out all the times getting super messed up, and after they found me overdosed on the floor (week in a coma in the hospital) (child services talked to them and required institutionalization) they got me help, good help. Thank whatever God there is for Mr Eagle, my counselor who had the "how do you eat an elephan? Piece by piece. Mentality of breaking life down into manageable chunks. Dealing only with your own problems, and not busying yourself with things outside of your control as those are not your responsibility (will revisit this at the end) ( money bags grandpa paid for it, btw I spent some nice times as a younger with Grandpa and do have a special relationship with him but also it tense probably because of the way him and my.mom get on? Maybe I feel ashamed about not investing well in my twenties because we would pull money out since we had very little of it and needed things like a down payment on a house or a major car repair, or a hospital bill, maybe because he cheated on my grandma at like 82 and then she pretty much laid down and died? Maybe because I feel weird about myself and insecure and inadequate? I'm afraid I seem greedy around him too and don't want him to think I want money so I try to fake being more financialy good than I am. I'm not bad off tho, for a single income family where the hubs is a hardware store manager.. got about a years income saved and I think that's pretty dope rly ) Back to parents: both of them have this "don't make a mountain out of a molehill" dismissive, don't deal with your problems attitude to everything so like... I'm the complete opposite, kinda anal. And I can be mean and resentful. Now they are also very into Jesus and are disappointed that I'm not. I "led them to Christ" when I was a post suicidal teen looking for change. Their only change was that they were in church and hiding all their habits. My dad has a super close relationship to my ex sister in law and they talk all the time, he gave her a job, she had a hard life, now she loves God and they are like so close. I'm very sad about it. I do feel betrayed. It also hurt my brother, the okay one. He stayed away for a decade since the ex was always at our house or with my dad working. So then I started buying groceries in college when I had a job, and cooking for myself but my dad is too picky to eat anything I'd make. My mom only bought frozen and shelf stable things and I was pretty crunchy and wanted lots of fresh stuff to eat. Moving on, my mom is always complaining about her dad being so needy and won't pay for help, her sister is useless (mind you he just calls the sister fat, and talks a lot of shit to her, I wouldn't help either. I don't like to come around cuz he's kinda too old school with my kids) my mom is also in terrible health. She fell down the stairs several times now, drunk. She's had some surgeries. She smokes a ton and is always coughing. So here we are: Shes about to move in next door. Shes "excited for the first time in a long time" and I kind of am,but mostly? I'm worried. I have four kids, that she basically never helps with. She doesn't have to, they're my kids. I would appreciate her help but I'm afraid of her being too close to the kids.I don't want her in my business, I don't want my tween running over there everytime something is going on... like today our neighbors dog killed the cat, and if my mom lives there she would have seen the commotion.. I just don't want her having such a window into my life. I like to control what information she has. Everything she says drives me ducking nuts. She's always bragging about me like she shares in my accomplishments, and maybe she kinda does but I worked in college, she didn't help pay. I lived at home and paid my bills and bought my own food! When I did tell her about the cat her response bothered me. I regretted calling. I ALWAYS REGRET SHARING THINGS WITH HER. She tells all my secrets and portrays me in the same trashy podunk light she lives under. I don't really want to play best friends with her. Oh, I'm her "best friend" she's always so happy and proud to say I'm her "best friend" I'm not her best friend. I can barely stand her and while I did decide in the last year I was sick of being everyone's emotional trash can and I was at least going to share my grief too, so I do occasionally talk to her about my problems, I find everything she has to say so trite and so basic and so utterly uninformed and unhelpful. I need to spank the kids is always her answer (I was never spanked lol) She can't ever just be better, read a book, or do something healthy. She wants to eat drive through food and drink loads of bud light. Shes going to have all these health problems and I'm her "only one in the world" I do have a dad of course, who she trashed to me (from his work ethic, to my step brothers, to their sex life-apprently he's too horny!?! Wtf) so much in my teens I only recently have been able to even talk to.. he's also standoffish and thinks (slow southern drawl) "men are just quiet ain't no need to talk about everthing" Now she's telling me how she's going to be a brand new woman as my neighbor. Shes so happy! I want to be happy for her Shit I want her to babysit! I want family dinners. I want to like love each other. But I loathe her "good morning I love you!" Text every day She just doesn't get me. She does try to respect boundaries, but it's because I'm "over sensitive" and too emotional. . . I just don't know where to set boundaries.i don't want to be so judgemental because I'm so afraid I will not be any better as a parent 😭 I don't know what's worth talking about. I don't know how to appreciate the good mom I have who also has tons of irritating faults. She really would do anything for me if I asked. But I won't ask because I resent her! Or perhaps because she's already soooo burdened and she can't handle it. How do you move past your shit with your parents? Also she's like "you can't ever move now!" And like.. we definitely know we want to move eventually. Plus I don't want to take care of her problems. Like I get helping your old parents but goddamnit I had kids young because the church cult I joined myself to was very pro baby. It's the only thing we should do with our lives blah blah blah. I love being a mom and wife. I got married at 19. Kids at 21, so when I'm like 45.. I have no interest in taking care of my old parents who lived it up. I want to go to medical school or something dramatic in my later years. We always wanted to move abroad with our teens (me a nurse, hubs a teacher). IDK I'm just so irritated with her for her crappy parts and not sure how to still love her, which I want to, because my gosh I will be so sad when she's gone. I was always so afraid as a little kid of her dying. Nightmare after nightmare 😭I want to love her well but also be able to manage my own mental health and family. How do we do that?!?! Ps she just was given half a million dollars by my other grand parents to build a house. I live in a squatty (but lovely, my dad fixed it up nice for us, with ex sister in law, weird weird weird)two bedroom next door which I bought, (for a good price but bad foundation, had to replace roof, had to replace half the subfloors and some.joists from water damage) instead of another home because it was a childhood home for my dad, long in the family, and she was going to lose it in the bankruptcy. So I bought the house to save the house for the family. I have land. I do love my 2 bed 800 sf house.. but seeing her getting money and being "cracker rich" as she calls it, again, is.. ugh. They were also given the house I live in, for free. I bought it They were given it for free. I feel like I'm also viewed as this weak emotional spoiled girl by them all (parents, sil, brothers) too, which feels very unfitting(brothers have received gobs of bail money, surcharge money, probation fees, new cars when they totaled theirs) and like yes my grandpa once insisted on buying me a Buick for 5k which broke down constantly, needed the engine replaced, and I tried to tell him I didn't want (could afford a new car but it felt irresponsible to buy one when someone is trying to gift you a car... His name was on the note too so I couldn't even trade it in... Strings) and yes he once gave me 10k unsolicited 🤍 gave my mom 30k and it sure disappeared. Mine did too tbh. Bought a patio to enclose to make more space. But I put myself through school, I worked the whole time, although at 14 it was housekeeping for my folks, I worked on a hotel in college, and as a nurse until I had my first baby. Sure I stay home but I can't afford daycare?! And I want to love the babies and created a better family. IDK. What the hell do I do from here? How do we make the family.. work?!?! What do I change? What do I accept that I can't change? Can I run away 😭

I have been playing this game for four years. Slowly upgraded to Edge of Darkness over time and enjoyed the game a ton-- so much that you could probably say I developed an unhealthy addiction to the game. I have never gone as far as to cheat in a game and never had interest in cheating regardless because of the concept that there is nothing to truly gain from cheating in a video game (unless we are talking old school games that gave you cheat codes!) so that to me goes out the window. This is not a full ban, but it is still a ban nevertheless and for reasons unbeknownst to me-- I did reach out to BSG and BE to appeal this decision under the distress that someone may have set me up for this position in regard to the game. I am not a good player on Tarkov by any means, I cannot PVP for the life of me and my friends that I play with daily can attest to this; somehow though, seeing that I was just plucked out of the game and banned for six days without any justification just seems insane to me. I don't know if this is even worth posting on because I've seen people in the forums online who had the same exact experience as I get completely ridiculed by other players simply because the players assumed they were in-fact cheating. I am at a loss of words to be quite frank because I never cheat, I never go out of my way to ensure I am hurting the game's community and I never go out of my way to do this just to prove a point. Sure, I can wait for the six days and come back, but if I am going to get randomly banned at any given time, why on Earth would I want to come back? I even told BE and BSG in the appeal to scan my PC and TRY to find any kind of third-party software or prove that I was cheating in any way. There was no email sent to me, no error code describing what TOS I violated: nothing at all. It's disappointing and it's heartbreaking as a fan of the game to see that this is the kind of battle that BSG is taking against players who DO cheat and those who do not. Again, just wanted to spread this out there as a warning to anyone that you're pretty much not safe because even an average joe like me was not safe from some unsuspecting ban that will probably be ignored. I can't fathom it in my head as to what could've caused this to happen other than my mouth in-game but even then, it wasn't like I went above and beyond to pull someone's IP or act like an inconceivable moron; I ate my losses and moved on whenever I died in-game. There really just are not any words to describe the frustration I have over this and what it means to me as a long-time player. I genuinely hope this gets appealed or someone AT LEAST tries to look into my case. This was completely left field, and I think there is a lot more to this than I'm being led to believe. Regardless everyone, PLEASE watch yourselves because clearly there is something wrong with their anti-cheat or their support online. If it can happen to me, surely it can happen to one of you guys. Wish you all the best and just wanted to leave this as a post for anyone going through the same thing I am. I will try to keep this updated if I can. Thanks again.
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So, I'm not really a coffee drinker. Every time someone gives me coffee, I just taste an extreme amount of bitterness. It doesn't matter how much vanilla, or sugar, milk, or creamer you add to it, bitter is the only flavor I taste.
However, I have heard that salt is good for cutting the bitterness, that salt blocks the taste receptors that your tongue uses to taste bitterness, which makes salted caramel really good for people who don't like the bitterness of other coffees.
So I went into Dunkin to get some donuts and asked about a salted caramel coffee. And they said they don't have anything like that at all. So I went to Starbucks. And they said that the only thing salted caramel they had was a cold brew, which would be even more bitter than normal coffee, and I'm also just not interested in cold coffee. However, the Starbucks lady did give me a tip: put salt in the grounds when you brew the coffee and it'll cut the bitterness.
So, I'm trying to figure out what exactly I should do to at least get to try a salted caramel hot coffee of some kind. What is the most beginner friendly coffee that I could get at the store and run through my dad's coffee machine with a little added salt to the grounds, and then maybe add some caramel sauce into it and some whipped cream on top to make my own salted caramel coffee at home?

This is another one of those "am I trans" posts...I'm sorry, but I just needed to get this out there because it's been bugging me a LOT. I'm 22, AMAB.
Up until this February I considered myself a very boring cis man. Kinda hated my life but I did what I could to best fit what was expected of me. Never questionned much of anything, just went through the motions of life: do well in school, go to college, get a girlfriend...with the expectation that I'd later find a good job, get married, have kids, grow old...you get the idea. These were the things that I was told were supposed to bring me fulfillment, my "mssion", so to speak. I'm no bottle of sunshine, and kinda expected that eventually the feeling of emptiness I've felt would go away, or that it was just a normal part of accepting that you're just a "normal" person I guess.
I moved out in September 2022 to study. By the time February break rolled around I managed to wind down a bit, and with a bit of free time I figured I'd buy a dress (for what reason I'm still unclear). I got it, put it on...and something happened. I initially got it into my head that I should really try to be a crossdresser or femboy (a thought that stayed in my head a couple weeks), but eventually I started wondering if I myself could actually be trans. I don't remember what triggered this in me, but I felt compelled to look it up, and found ressources such as the GD bible, nightlingbug's twitter thread, and a few of the oft-cited Medium articles that get thrown around here.
That's when a seemingly-innocent, back-of-my-mind thought took on a life of its own. Maybe there was something to this after all?
To be honest, up until that point this is not really something I had thought about. In my mind, you either were a girl, or you weren't....and I clearly wasn't. Sure, I sometimes found myself wishing I could have been one (even told myself I would rather have been born/reborn as one on a couple occasions), but it all seemed like casual fantasy anyway. Sure, I had spent my teens wishing for different *parts*, but I always classified it as curiosity or a fetish: after all, what women had just seemed better in most every respect, and what guy wouldn't want that? I was generally jealous of women's bodies, but I also knew that periods sucked and that society sucked, so I didn't really pay much mind to this. I kept it all secret, I didn't want anyone to know I had these thoughts.
As far as other "signs" go? I don't know, really. I remember being quite annoyed with my parts as a kid, and even asked my pediatrician to have them removed, but I'm unsure if that was out of disgust or just me not liking how they felt. I remember asking my dad for laser facial hair removal as a pre-teen, but I struggle to remember what I was thinking back then. I always had trouble being shirtless and often felt "naked" somehow, but AFAIK that could have been anything and I could overcome it when I needed to (loved swimming for example).
I also wanted my AFAB friends to dress me up as a girl/do my makeup, as early as ages 8-ish, and would sometimes volunteer for makeup as a "joke" at parties. I had cross-dressing fantasies, but never indulged them because a) I didn't want to be caught dead with women's clothing by my parents and b) felt it would be wrong to steal my mom/sister's clothing...whenever the idea popped into my head growing up I'd usually dismiss it with a "haha no" and move on.
Truth be told, I've been dealt a shit hand with mental health historically...I was always an anxious kid, but I've been some flavor of clinically depressed most years since I was 12. for a decent chunk of my adolescence my focus was on survival, and the rest (puberty, dreams...) took a backseat. Feeling like life has no meaning kind of messes you up like that. Introspection was also never quite my forte.
Never thought "I am a girl" though, or even explicitly wished I could turn into one beyond what I've previously described. I guess my life did feel wrong somehow, but I have no idea of what could have been the cause for that. Truth be told I only half-expected to survive past 60 anyway.
If I could press a button that would turn me into a woman I feel I definitely would (kinda seems like a dream come true), but I can't help but wonder if I'm only telling myself this because I've been thinking about it for so long. Also, if I magically *turned into* a woman I wouldn't need to face any potential backlash or even dysphoria if I made a wrong choice (because I'd be a cis woman, right?), so that kinda removes all element of risk.
The revelation that I could live my life as a woman back in February has broken me. On the one hand, it seems like a dream come true, but it's also super scary. I don't want to have to come out. And i'm scared because I've never actually *been* a woman, so how could I even know if I like it? I have this idealized vision of myself in a yellow sundress and long, flowing hair but surely this is just wishful thinking? thinking about all this has been absolutely catastrophic for my mental health, plunging me back into clinical depression. I *think* I have some dysphoria (I kinda hate my body hair and wish some of my features were different), but medication has greatly reduced how strongly I feel (the first month absolutely sucked, I couldn't even look at myself and felt like crawling out of my skin) so I don't know if that's dysphoria or just stress, I guess?
I've been experimenting by using she/her online, dressing fem at home, using nail polish, getting my ears pierced, wearing breast forms...and it all feels good, but actually *doing* anyhting with this information is scary as hell.
Sorry for my life history here, and thanks for coming to my TED talk, but this is all so fucking new and scary.

I found this thread (https://www.reddit.com/AskWomen/comments/7p9jg9/domestic_abuse_situations_are_often_characterized/) through an online search on the problems platonic relationships pose for romantic ones, and while there's much to agree with here viz. abusive men, I've found no parallel here (nor anywhere else) for the abusive relationship that I find myself in (to my thinking at least). As this is an 'AskWomen' section of Reddit I would like to do just that -- because I am a man.
I met my partner ~ 11 yrs ago when I came to France for work -- she was, it seems, still involved with her ex (the father of her children) when we met, but I didn't know at first as they didn't live together. She also has this odious little character she keeps around who is a very old friend and effectively a second father to her kids. She has these other men in her life but I find that she makes the time for that other by taking that time from ours. She says that I'm being abusive, jealous, and controlling in this set-up and I contend the opposite; certainly my "odious" phrasing above might seem to lend credence to her POV, but let me outline some details of why I said this as I would very much like a female perspective here. The trouble started as soon as this character got wind of her new relationship with me -- swearing at her young kids, refusing to leave his room whenever I was in the house, engaging in grand-gestures (taking a taxi back to the airport and flying back to the UK, only to be beseeched back by telephone by my girlfriend's kids in floods ot tears two-days later), etc. This emotional blackmail had its desired effect -- her children stopped speaking to me and started hating me (blanking me whenever he was here, stealing from me, telling me they "wish I was dead", etc.), and my gf (understandably, I suppose) unconsciously sided with her children and it formed a wedge between us. When I stated my unhappiness about this situation and her effective sanctioning of his behaviour -- she said that told him that he couldn't come here anymore if this persisted, and he had agreed to stop -- that he loved her and her kids and only reacted the way he did because of what he thought he would lose, and she told me and that the responsibility to "build bridges" was mine. I hardly need describe what I thought about this, the damage already done, my only crime to start a relationship with someone new.
If that was all there was to it I could easily have looked past it (I'm never been the jealous type), but I found his presence to be wearing as he was here for the best part of six-months of every year (he's a retired pensioner): every breakfast, every lunch, every dinner, every day (pre-Brexit -- and thank heavens for Brexit in this one respect!) and I began to notice that my gf was increasingly only available to me in his company. She spent her summers going on holidays with him/her kids, telling me that I had her for the rest of the year (the cold, dark, part of the year where she is miserable, seasonal-affective disorder personified). I also began to see how she seemed intent on revalidating him by diminishing me in his presence or putting on a show for his benefit (shouting at me, being critical of me, being short with me in conversation, or just ignoring me altogether) and I started to withdraw from this. She told me I was being jealous, and that he was a part of her life that I would have to accept. I told her she was abusive and passive-agressive, which didn't help!
Neither is he the only problem, and I describe the following as symptomatic of a part of my gf's behaviour -- that she is too fond of the attention of other men. Perhaps you may conclude otherwise. You see, there's her ex- too (the father of her children) and he's also "part of her life" too. Does anyone other than me regard it is inappropriate and unacceptable that her ex- comes down for lunch every weekend? How about three days a week (to see his kids)? How about every single 5ucking week for the past 11 years?! She always sits facing him and I am left to one side. They only talk to each other and if I don't speak to her the entire meal for me passes in silence . When I initially questioned this continual attendance she said he only came to see his kids and so I put up with it until they left home -- which they did years ago and still he comes, every week (last time I raised this she tried to be jocular by highlighting his handyman abilities), but she never Ever allows him to see me close to her (or us kiss) and always keeps her distance from me in company when he is here -- another 'partner' validated at the expense of her actual partner. She takes him out to dinner alone on his birthday, whenever his family have any sort of event I am always excluded (although the platonic character is always taken), and I can't remember the number ot times that I've walked into our kitchen to find she and her ex- swiftly moving apart from a tete-a-tete (that she would never have with me if he were in the house). When I question any of this I get the same spiel, the asserted jealousy, or that I aggressive and unreasonable. My gf has just spent the past two weeks in the company of her platonic other-half when I hardly saw her at all despite us living in the same house, taking more time off work to garden with him in that time than she's taken off on my account in the last six-years, and the day after he goes she make herself unavailable again and when I go to find her to ask if she didn't think that it would be politic to spend half-an-hour of that evening with me given how little I've seen of her for the past fortnight I am presented with excuses and we have a blazing row. I have never, in 40+ years of dating, encountered a situation like this, a gf whose raison d'etre seems to be bending over backwards for every other man (and whom I am apparently supposed to take on trust she is not bending over for forwards as well); am I being unreasonable and controlling in finding such behaviour unacceptable and an abuse of her relationship with me? We've stopped having sex weekend-mornings (and now almost altogether) as it gets in the way of the cooking necessary for entertaining her ex, and in this sexual context she even told me the previous time that her platonic partner was here (he just left again after another two-week stay) that we couldn't have some planned daytime bedroom-fun because "...what would he think if we just went up to our bedroom during the day"! My reaction to this statement was as verbally explosive as one might imagine.
And that's just her platonic partner and her ex-partner. Now let me describe the situation with her boss. My gf has an outfit that she looks very fetching in and I have expressed no amount of admiration for her in it (indeed, the booties were purchased on my recommendation), so much so that we regularly used to engage in a particular sexual act with her wearing it. I soon noticed, however, that whenever she wore that outfit to work she would always come home with a description of how her lecherous boss had come back to the office that day and blah, blah, blah... I held my tongue to be certain about what I thought I was seeing but after 10 or 20 times of this I was forced into the obvious connection -- she was seeking to appeal to him physically. Nothing so wrong there I suppose, this is still a baldy-patriarchal world and a gal has to get along if she wants to get ahead professionally, but in the context of her other behaviours viz. other men I was less minded to be sanguine here. The last (two) straw(s) came recently when she was going away on a business trip with said fat-boss -- smiling as Messenger messages from him pinged while we were still in the bed in the morning, sitting grinning at her phone on the train while I stood there like a lemon on the platform waiting for her train to depart, and a long email to me at midnight describing the wonderful meal he took her for and the film at the cinema they went to, completely forgetting to ask me about the results of my cancer-remission test that day. Then when my birthday came around a couple of weeks later and she asked me what she should wear and suggested the outfit that I liked she was crass enough to tell me that was her boss' favourite outfit too, apparently unaware that I was already aware of what he liked her to wear and what she liked to wear for his benefit. Again I reacted negatively to this statement and, extraordinarily, she told me that he sexually assaulted her years ago -- it was all that I could do not to say that I was not surprised that a lecherous boss would do so as she seemed to be giving him all the signals he would expect of someone receptive to an approach. Ladies, who goes out to dinner alone with a man who sexually assaulted them previously (and that this was apparently reported on)? Who goes to a dark cinema alone with that man? Who continues to dress to appeal to that man post-assault (and then tells her partner what that man likes her to wear?!)?
I find all of this behaviour sickening frankly, and when I raise any of it with her I'm told that I'm being jealous, controlling, etc., and she even gaslights me now by saying that I imagine all of it. I always know when some bloke is coming around our house as she always dolls herself up for every tradesman's visit (apparently you only get the best price with a man if you "make yourself look attractive first"), but is happy to look like she slept in a hedge when it's just me and her. I don't mind the latter in the least and never need her made-up or dressed-up -- I find her attractive as-is, I just ask why she is only ever interested in making that effort for other men (cue tight-jeans and two different lipstick shades in as many hours). There's hundreds of other things too: she never fails to put me aside to answer the phone or the door -- even during sex -- in case it's an emergency (her mother "might have fallen down the stairs"), she regularly takes a call from family at lunchtime and talks the entire way through our meal (doing it once at a restaurant on my birthday -- although she did complain to me about her mother interrupting when she was at the retaurant with her ex- for his birthday), whenever in company she is voluble in her answers to statements from others but if I speak to her she'll either ignore me, offer a grunt, or a one-word Y/N answer (but if I speak to anyone else she'll quickly interject to negate or disagree with what I've said), she absolutely never lets me finish a sentence and immediately cuts me off, when we sit alone at a table (home, bar, restaurant) she looks to one-side or over my shoulder and if I ask her to attend she tells me she's "looking at her roses" or goes into her "...I can't just sit here looking into your eyes for hours-on-end" tirade. Last year when she was studiously staring over the top of my head in the restaurant I asked her if there was something wrong with my hair (she is invariably critical of my appearance) and she told me that she was looking at the waiter -- I asked if she could perhaps focus on the person taking her to lunch rather than the person serving it and she told me not to "be so rude". It feels very much like she's making clear to all concerned (and even those whose business our relationship is not) how little consequence I am relative to them, emulating the blanking behaviour that that little POS enforced on her kids by sticking his nose in our relationship. When I wanted to do something about the latter early on she would have none of it and he is now happy as Larry as he is validated in his position of being appended to our relationship -- the personal side of which she has effectively given away. She'll make endless excuses for not engaging verbally, tactilely, or physically in bed, swearing at me if I speak to her before she's ready to rouse, excusing herself once she is awake by saying that she can't stay if I try to cuddle her, putting her hand over her genitals if I put my hands on her body. Yet when I cease bothering and just go downstairs when I wake she lies there for hours saying she was waiting for me to come back. I have to ask her for sex ("it's too cold", "it's too bright", "I'm too tired", "I'm not a morning person", "I've got weeding to do"), I have to ask her for her company of an evening ("I can spare you ten minutes", "I haven't got long", "can't you wait?", "I've got to get this email finished", "I've got to go to my son's restaurant", etc.), taking time from our time together to get all of her chores done so that she can then spend hours, days, and weeks in the company of her other gentleman-friends tp give them her full attention, unencumbered. Then, when they've gone, she's unavailable to me again because she has to catch up with all the things she couldn't do while entertaining them or attending to her family's many needs. If I question any of this it's because I don't understand and am not close with my family (I did my time with them already), or don't have children, or don't have friends of the closeness that she does (not true -- I just don't impose those friendships on my relationships and recognise all of the dividing lines therein). If I try and spend time with her she's refractory and regards it as a chore and is largely mute, yet when I walk away she gets all offended, moist-eyed, and passive. I worked out out that I spend ~ 98% of every week in our relationship alone. There's a chicken-and-egg element to this sorry tale, as she says that she would be more invested in our relationship if there was more affection and if I loved her like her platonic partner does and I tell her that she is confusing effect with cause and that I never fell in love with her because of having to compete with a panoply of other blokes for access to my own girlfriend.
Am I jealous, needy, cntstruck, lovelorn, or needlessly dramatic? I don't think so -- I have long regarded infidelity in the physical sense as an odd, modern construct: if my gf saw a breathtakingly attractive man who propositioned her for a quickie that she took him up on it would not be the end of the world. We should no more want to experience just one person's body in life than one person's cooking (= never going to any restaurants), but personal fidelity is another matter. Even if I saw the most amazingly attractive female who I knew wanted me whilst I was in the company of my partner (this actually happened to me on two occasions long ago with a gf's sister and a gf's 'best-friend'), I would never, ever marginalise that partner or make her question her standing in that situation as that would be absolutely beyond the pale. Yet my gf purposely marginalises me in company all the time. It's cheap, nasty, and ultimately why I know that she and I have no future together. Her need to sideline her partner for the attention of other men is what brought us together so I shouldn't be surprised that is what took us apart. Many men (whose input I really don't want -- please) would regard her as a slattern, but I do not. But having never encountered such aberrant behaviour before I don't really know what to think.
If you've read this far then you must think that I'm a colossal, desperate 5ucking idiot who can't see the obvious in all of this. But I'm not, and I'm perfectly aware of what it all means -- this is a dead relationship with someone I should perhaps never have started one with (but one that I choose to stay within because of other entities that we both share and that neither is willing to be parted from). Neither am I simply venting as I am resigned to the hopelessness of the situation (I know all about facing reality from my experience with cancer, which disease my gf also kindly once advised me also was not her fault). No, what I want is to try to understand what this behaviour means and to have an external female view of whether I am to blame for any of it. And that's what I would like from you dear ladies (please don't read a patronising tone in that phrase), and input from as many of you as possible so that whatever conclusion I draw is as robust as possible. If I get enough useful responses I may even show this thread to her, not because I can't articulate any of this myself (which I have, ad nauseum), but because I would like her to see what other women / someone other than me thinks of the behaviour that I describe. I don't believe that I'm at fault but am perfectly ready to hear any reasonable argument that I am because it might give me closure and show that perhaps I had a hand in creating my own misery. It might even make me feel a little better about who I am. When I met this woman (she was 51, I 48) I was on the rebound from a long-term relationship with a much-younger partner, and I thought that I had found heaven on Earth. The years that followed showed that I had instead found the opposite. I have never been so unhappy.
Please help me to understand.

Me and my GF work full-time together at a restaurant so I see her five days a week. I’m a regular employee while she’s a manager but this has never caused any issues in the workplace or between us.
Lately I’ve been really struggling with feeling like I’m not good enough for my GF and that I’m just an afterthought to her. It’s really been eating me up inside and I could use some outside perspective.
I think a few of the reasons I’ve been feeling this way is because work is pretty much the ONLY time I ever get to spend with her. We hardly ever do stuff together outside of work unless there’s friends involved. She spends most of her free time hanging out with friends on the weekends too. The only time we EVER spend alone together is the 5-10 minutes of me driving her home after work every day. In fairness to her though, we do see each other every day at work but I don’t know, I still feel really left out of her life.
How can I improve this situation? I’ve been thinking of quitting so that she HAS to see me outside of work but that feels kind of toxic to me. I’m not sure what to do. Advice?

Hope this is okay. I’m looking for some perspective. Im gonna try and give the key information:

• I started this job 4 years ago as an intern with horrible pay. 4 months in, I was doing the same job as a regular employee. Same workload and same responsability.
  
• My boss at the time was awful. The way she would speak to us was horrible. It was abusive.
  
• 15 months ago we got a new boss. He show up being the complete opposite. Always very correct and calm
  
• 1 year ago I was given a bad performance review, I argued everything, since most of those things did not happened the way they’re claimed, but my previous boss was already gone and I was told the review was final. I was not given a salary increase.
  
• At that stage I was 3 years in. I had 3 teammates and all of them making waaay more than me. 12k less than one of them. And 32 k less thank the two others. (These two employees had more experience than me in others companies)
  
• I hit an extreme lower point. I needed the job. And I couldn’t find anything else. Finally I got another offer and presented my resignation, but I got a counter offer. Because of personal reasons (the health of a family member) working from home was essential, and my current company was the only one offering that.
  
• My boss is the typical “we are family” type of manager and got hurt/insulted by my action. He keeps mentioning that people that work only for money are not good workers and they will achieve nothings
  
• Now I’m making more money, but substantially less thanks my teammates (20k less), however, because I come from a not privileged background, this amount of money is more than what some of my friends/family members make.
  
• 2 months ago I got a positive performance review, and got a 850 pounds increase, getting still 20 k less than my teammates.
  
• I struggle with both feeling grateful for the position I am in comparison with my surroundings, and feeling underpaid and taken for granted by my boss/job
  

If I were to leave I could maybe get more money, but giving up remote working is not an option for me…
And I’m just really sad and angry at this whole situation. What do you think?

Been seeing this guy about a month. Things were going really well! We have so much in common and speak everyday. I can almost depend on hearing from him throughout the day. We’ve had two dates that ended up being sleepovers, which I didn’t regret until now because it felt right. Yesterday morning I texted him good morning and wishing him a great day. He never responded. I was so confused, again, because things were going well. I texted him again this morning, over 24 hours later, and he said. “Thank you. I’m happy to hear from you.” And I responded, “huh?” To which he said this:
“This is going to sound some type of way, but I had to be sure. We’ve gotten to a point where I wanted to see if I was wasting my time or not. I needed to know that if I hadn’t said anything, you wouldn’t have just never tried again. Because if yesterday would’ve been the last time you tried talking to me, I would’ve known you didn’t actually care. I apologize for testing you, but again I needed to be sure. I’m very happy to hear from you”
We’re both almost 30 and at decent places in life. I’ve just gotten to a place where I’m happy again after depression and I’m not gonna lie… this gave me anxiety and uneasiness. I don’t think something meant for me should make my stomach turn.
Is his behavior a red flag? I’m so confused.

If you feel you missed the AI train, don’t worry. Intel is a great value at its current price and a hidden gem in plain sight as NVDA gets the spotlight. I think its ultimately going to come down to INTC/NVDA vs AMD 1.NVDA CEO Jensen Huang recently came out and said Intel Chips “look good”. This is added competition for TSM and a big advantage for INTC. Most TSM processing and fabrication plants are in Taiwan. Most of INTC’s fabricating plants are in the US and friendly countries. The number one reason Buffett dumped TSM is location, location, Location. https://www.barrons.com/articles/intel-tsmc-nvidia-573267ea https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List\_of\_Intel\_manufacturing\_sites 2. INTC is a huge benefactor of the CHIPS ACT. 3. INTC also makes GPU’s competitive with NVDA. https://www.intel.com/content/www/us/en/products/details/discrete-gpus/arc.html I don’t think NVDA will buy INTC as its too expensive and they won’t merge because shareholders wont allow it but they will compliment and benefit from each other’s success in the new world of AI. The time has finally come for INTC to shine.

I want to make a post for every LGBTQ+ community on reddit that I'm in...but that would take forever because I support soooo many so I'll just put it in the general one and assume everyone follows it too haha.
I'm am a proud bisexual and gender queer person and this pride is my first time coming out as officially gender queer to my family. I did it via a Facebook post about an hour ago...no one has seen it yet.
I came out as bisexual to myself in high school and slowly to my family a friends as well though I struggled with gender identity for awhile. At first I was just going to say being a woman was "good enough" cuz I met most of the criteria for what I felt a woman should feel like...but there were still parts of me that just....didn't fit. So I explored and though "Ah maybe fem non binary!" But was often told I was too feminine to be non binary. I then just decided that my gender was just... queer. I'm not all woman but it doesn't bother me. I like doing some woman things but I'd rather exist outside of gender. That's how I view my gender identity. The bisexual is easier to explain. I like men, and I like woman, I like combos. I choose bi over pan for preference (never have got a clean answer on the difference) but if you're hot you're hot 🤷🏼‍♀️. I have visual attraction to both and my attraction to the person is a lot deeper and depends on much more. I've only been with one person in my life seriously and that is my current husband. First kiss and he was so good I just kept him. I like him, he's pretty neat. Well that's my story...not the whole thing but I wanted to share with someone who might care today. Happy pride my lovelies 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

I am a Christian guy approaching my upper fifties, and my wife is near her mid-40's. We belong to a church in our area in the U.S. that is theologically Reformed and has presbyterian polity/governmental structure. A year ago, we chose to transfer our membership to another congregation in the same vicinity (the specific reasons will not be explained now and are not known specifically by many of our friends, but we are in good standing).
There have been many instances of me trying reach out electronically to friends especially in the former and other congregations in the interest of interacting with them and fostering an air of more significant and meaningful communication. But unfortunately, many of these folks are slow or neglectful to reply and may not even get back to me until after I have sent a followup message a week or more later. It is disconcerting and saddening when the recipient does not take even just 2-5 minutes as a matter of common consideration to write quickly even if to say that I can look forward to more of a response when circumstances are better. And it is not like I have been excommunicated or otherwise disfellowshipped (even if my membership had been terminated due to the need for discipline, I would find it repulsive and not Christlike to be shunned). My wife in some measure feels the same way about communications seemingly being ignored. This makes for more potential tension along with hesitancy to be in situations where these others might be present. It also makes me feel like many of my friends maintain cliques or that functionally many churches are in a sense exclusive clubs.
How many of you likewise feel like there is not as much rendering of reciprocal acknowledgement as would be fitting for a relationship founded on committed faith in common? I do not simply contact a person for my own health/ego affirmation; it is to nurture the relationship bidirectionally. Have some of you needed to lovingly confront a person who resorts to the silent treatment despite a need for two-way exchange? My intentions are honorable and above board and do not involve the slightest risk of scandal or inappropriate situations. Excuses given to justify deliberately ignoring the initial message intended as 2-way will not be helpful (unless the actual other party says that it is because of being out of range temporarily or dealing with some kind of serious and significant matter diverting attention away from me), especially when anyone should be able to offer at least a courtesy response (and if anyone tries to treat us poorly when we have been circumspect, then there is a heart issue that is unbecoming of having saving faith in Christ).
If responding, PLEASE do not offer a trite statement such as that I would not want to interact with these friends anyway because they are not good enough for me or try to accuse or judge me presumptuously or make questionable excuses that might involve inconsistent standards of treatment. No, that kind of ill-founded reflection will not work; I have known many of these folks for a long time and value my friendships with them by and large. This post has a support-based focus and I thus seek practical insight. Also, I ask that no one go on superficial or meaningless tangents but rather stay attentive to the topic at hand.
Thanks to anyone that can offer some helpful understanding/suggestions for how to try to see some improvement.

I (24m) have been with my gf (23f) for 5 months now. You all already heard this story before, I met her and we clicked instantly. We are both in the same career field, have many things in common, and a lot of similar interests. We started dating after 2 weeks and we moved in together after 3 months. We love each other deeply and I truly feel like she could be the one. Before I go on my rant I want to disclose that the positives she brings to the table severely outweigh the negatives. She does so much for me that I cannot even begin to express how grateful and appreciative I am of her. She shows me everyday through her actions that she loves me. I could go on for hours about this.
Getting right into it, she has a extensive past with other men. A lot of causal hookups, especially with guys that she works with. Some early red flags I found were her having many guy friends, going on one-on-one “dates” with these guys, still speaking to some of the guys that she has hooked up with, going out to the clubs a lot, not posting me on social media, and getting so drunk that she can’t “control herself” and doesn’t remember half the night. She has since compromised on all these things and we are very open with each other now. However, it took me finding out that she still talks to these guys she has slept with and piecing things together to then call her out and get her to realize that this is all single behavior. But we both set healthy boundaries and things are fine. I am no angel either.
A while ago she disclosed that she “emotionally cheated” on one of her old boyfriends by going on lunch dates and spending a lot of time with another guy she worked with behind his back. She eventually broke up with her old boyfriend and started dating the guy she worked with. I got upset because although I know people can change, I am a firm believer of past behavior influencing future behavior. And once a cheater, always a cheater. She had a hard time understanding this so I broke it down for her. I don’t like her having a lot of guy friend because I know how they are, most of them only are nice to you because they want to sleep with you. I don’t like her going on one-on-one dates with these guys because it can lead to other things, like it did in her past with her old boyfriend. I don’t like her dressing revealingly and going to clubs without me because they are filled with horny men trying to get you drunk so they can take you home. Plus she already disclosed how she has hooked up with someone at her work from going out to the club. I don’t like her getting that drunk because I have seen in person my gf getting this drunk and start feeling up on other girls while I’m there next to her. So I don’t even want to know what she would do if I wasn’t there to stop her. And I felt that not posting me on social media was a red flag especially because guys from her work are constantly following her and messaging her, plus she used to post her old boyfriend all the time. After this long talk, she claimed to understand and we moved on.
Recently I went through one of her old journals and found an entry that made me sick to my stomach. I know I should not have gone through her stuff and she even told me not to but I felt so compelled. As of now we have full access to each others phones but before we came to that agreement, I caught her going through mine. This doesn’t justify my actions but I thought screw it since she did it to me first. Most of the entries were harmless and it was just her venting about her ex’s. But one really disturbed me. She stated that things weren’t going well with her boyfriend (we’ll call Mat). Mat was the one she was going on lunch dates with behind her old boyfriend’s back. She said that Mat was stressed bc he felt that he had to keep her a secret and that she was stressed bc he was telling a lot of people at their work. This led to my gf losing a unknown type of relationship with someone we’ll call Jon (who she also works with). She stated Jon was not good for her bc he could be her father but she doesn’t care. She asked “The Lord” to please bring him back into her life the exact same way they used to be (unknown). She said please let me at least fuck him once, or allow Jon to be her constant sex buddy. She ended the entry asking God to give her the strength to breakup with Mat and/or lie really well to get Jon. This made me sick as my gf is a religious person and is asking God to help her cheat on her old boyfriend and lie behind his back. This entry was 6 months before we met so not a lot of time has gone by. I don’t know what to do now. Yeah it’s in the past, but all this happened not too long ago. How much could she have possibly changed in this time frame?
She is actively trying to leave her job and claims she hates the people she works with. We have been arguing about stupid things a lot recently but we are always able to talk through them. It just makes me wonder what she could be doing behind my back if she went behind now 2 of her previous boyfriend’s backs. She has never given me a reason to not trust her in the present and I have never suspected her of cheating. I’m in a tough spot. The love is there but her past is so rocky it’s hard to see past. Need help.

Good morning. Have questions concerning a couple resin molds going through the wash and dryer. Went through with a full load of laundry. Small trinkets. Fully cured
Was inside pants pockets. But discovered outside after the dryer cycle. Are all the clothes still good to wear?
Was curious on the dryer portion because heating back up the resin.

When we were kids, our parents often told us to play outside instead of staying home all day. But whether it's watching their favorite cartoon on television or playing online video games on a laptop, 21st -century kids spend more time inside their homes than playing healthy outdoor games.
Over the past few years, technology, including mobile phones, laptops, tablets, and PCs, has become imperative for work and relaxation. Kids these days are digital natives and prefer using the latest technology for homework, communication, and gaming.
According to recent research, less than 30% of adolescents perform healthy physical activities daily. Surely, digital advancements have endless perks, but one of the key drawbacks is that kids don't like playing healthy games and spend most of their time sitting on a couch and playing games online, adversely affecting their physical and mental health.
Indoor Play Areas Advance Creativeness
Your kids can face several challenges while playing inside the playground. Such challenges and interaction with new people help your kids develop their imagination. Kids tend to be moreexpressive and learn better from others ideas.The perfect thing about indoor playgrounds in Singapore is that your little angels can improve their creativity and imagination in a protected environment. Interacting with others ideally helps them improve their communication skills and share their unique ideas. It also benefits them as they can make new friends, and their bonding strengthens with time. In fact, the secure and healthy environment makes kids forget about their online games and prefer spending more time with real-life friends.

Perfect Place for Physical Exercise

Electronics are the new norms these days. It is no big deal for kids to stay home and play games that require no physical activity. Therefore, nothing is better than bringing your kids to indoor playgrounds where kids participate in physical activities in the comfort of an indoor environment without even noticing. Exercise is equally important for your growing-up kid, and you can't ignore this fact. Children participating in physical activities stay energetic and enjoy good mental and physical growth. Resultantly, they face hurdles and challenges positively and find the best possible solution.

Final Words

The main goal of Singapore's indoor playgrounds is to let kids enjoy and learn with fun. That's why you try explaining the drawbacks of maximum screen time to your kids. Tell them the significance of playing healthy games outside their homes.Nothing is better than playing in a safe environment where your kids can try every exciting activity without fear. So, take them to an indoor space near you and let them experience a new world of imagination, creativity, and innovation.
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Hello! As the title says, I'm looking for a place where me and my friends can fish and stay the night.
A gist of what I'm looking for: - we can bring our own food - we can cook on the premises - we can drink alcoholic beverages - we can be noisy to some extent (this is for a despedida party so we may be up all night) - we can fish and possibly eat our catch - we can sleep near the fishing spot, it doesn't matter if there's a house or we need to sleep in tents
I'm currently staying in Malolos, Bulacan but I am willing to drive if the place seems good.
Thank you in advance!

I really loved the way they were handled in the New 52 with reintroducing them, but paying great homage to their Bronze Age origins by having them come from Earth 2 with the JSA. I think they’re at their best being outsiders and best friends and I love the Helena Wayne huntress pulling from Batman and Catwoman. It put them in an interesting niche where they could exist and have good stories told about them.
Now in main continuity they seem to have been forgotten about and their alternative versions are set up for future failure. Helena Bertanelli has replaced Wayne, and imo is a less interesting character overall. She also is a member of the prime earth bay family, which is already bloated, which relegates her to cameo appearances for the rest of time. Pre crisis supergirl has also come back replacing New 52 powergirl, but they seem to have no interest in actually using her character. She’s been randomly paired up with Omen, separated from her actually supporting cast, given new powers, and has some weird characterization of not knowing anything about earth even though she’s supposed to be a CEO of her own company?? They even decided to change her name showing how little care they actually have for the character. They also decided to graft her onto the superfamily which is also becoming heavily bloated and takes away any of her uniqueness making her redundant as supergirl 2, when they already don’t know what to do with supergirl.
The final issue is that their niche appears to have been filled by the super sons leaving little hope of them reclaiming it. The younger counterparts of the main 2 who are best friends and trying to work out of their superiors shadow has been claimed by Jon and Damian who are getting a ton of spotlight leaving Helena and Karen to be forgotten about forever.
TLDR: Huntress and Power girl have been stripped of what makes them unique, relegated to end of bench members of their respective super families, and their niche has been stolen by Jon and Damian.

TW: mentions of cancer, death, physical and emotional abuse
Hello everyone, I really don't know where to start since I'm at a loss. I (F26) live in the same building as my parents, but on a different floor. I visit them sometimes to say hi, or WfH, if my neighbours are being too noisy.
My dad was diagnosed with lung cancer almost a year ago. It has also spread to his brain, but the prognosis is fairly good. He's resting well to the immunotherapies, and the doctors seem positive. However, since he started his meds, he's changed. He's become more angry, irritable, he shouts a lot, talks down to my mom, etc. He was never the perfect person, he has given us the silent treatment when I was younger, and he has even slapped my mom once (or twice, she says she's not sure). At some point we were living in the same home, and he had quit talking to my mom for 3 months, and to me for 1 because we had "offended his nephew". Don't ask me exactly what had happened, I was 9 and cannot remember, I'm not even sure I was in the room when the altercation took place.
So far, he has not been violent with me. He had cornered me once or twice, and raised his hand, but never actually hit me.
This morning, I went over and had some sort of disagreement regarding my cat. He doesn't want her inside my house, I want her inside my house, that was the disagreement. Maybe I should also mention that the building is in my mom's name, and my house is in mine.
I left the room to go turn on my work laptop, he followed me, while screaming at me that I never shut up and first grabbed me by the hair, then by the neck, and when I told him to get away from me or I'd call the police, he told me to "call anyone you want", and then slapped me twice. In the meantime, my mom had woken up and was trying to stop him, but she couldn't even move him. I gathered my things, and as I was leaving their house, I'll admit that I told him that he has been teaching me all these years not to accept this kind of behaviour from any man, but he turned out to be trash as well, and that I'm deeply disappointed I'm associated with him.
Maybe I should also mention that while my mom has also fought cancer (from 2013 to 2017, she's not cured and cannot be cured, the illness is lying doormat, and I hope it stays that way), he keeps telling her that he is the one who is sick, that she doesn't get it, and he doesn't want her near him because she has nothing to offer him.
I feel more disappointed than I ever have. This person, moneywise, has offered me a lot, especially a good education, food on the table, etc. (along with my mom, my dad was just always earning more), and in a single moment I started feeling that my love for him was gone. Maybe I'm still in shock, but I think of him, and feel that he is a stranger.
I know that cancer and the fear of death looming over you, must be terrifying. But is that an excuse? Was there always an excuse? How do I move on from this? At first I felt scared and now I feel nothing. I've cried so much, nd tried to cheer him up throughout his battle, and I have apparently failed. He is also not and never willing to see a therapist.
Tl;Dr My dad who also suffers from cancer, slapped me for the first time in 26 years. How do I move on from this?

Introduction

I am an experienced game master looking for one additional adult player (21+) to join an existing D&D 5e Midgard campaign in the Woodbridge / Dale City area. We will be meeting from 6 PM to 11ish every other Saturday (Next Session is June 17th). The game is a local tabletop game hosted at my home.
I will be making my final decisions by the 9th of June.
It is very likely with all of the stupidity Hasbro has been doing of late that our campaign will transition to the Tales of the Valiant 5e variant being created by Kobold Press once it becomes available. This will be discussed as the campaign continues.
As a way to keep things interesting, I like to have a short adventure that is not related to the campaign when the characters hit a level milestone. We generally have a two or three session experience with a different system each time. This includes a homebrew system we are creating and playtesting.

Rules & Expectations

I hope to have a laid back and inclusive game where all levels of gaming experience, genders, cultures, races, and sexuality are welcome. All that I ask is that you are polite to each other, engaged in the campaign, and try to be proactive. If you are not LGBTQ+ friendly, please do not apply.

• We are a non-smoking household with a young child, so there is no smoking in or around our home. This includes vaping and all other tobacco products. *
• We are a drug free home so please no illegal substances nor marijuana. *
• Alcohol is allowed in small quantities for those of legal age. Please do not become intoxicated and absolutely no driving under the influence. I am the final judge of intoxication. *
• We have no pets to be concerned with if you are allergic. *
• There is on-street parking, but please be considerate to the others on our cul-de-sac *
• Once our child has gone to bed profanity is allowed. Please be considerate beforehand. *
• Outside game chatter is welcome in a balanced mix, but please don't let it get too distracting. We are here to have fun, socialize, and create a collaborative story. That works best when everyone participates.

Requirements

We will be using D&D Beyond for character creation and management. You will not need to purchase any of the source material as I have an account that will share them with you, once you have joined the campaign. If we do transition to Tales of the Valiant, we will be changing this management to Demiplane as their 5E nexus becomes available. They will have the same sharing ability as D&D beyond , so don't worry.

• My games are always free. I don’t mind donations to help defray costs, but they are in no way expected. Just appreciated.

Setting & Campaign

The setting will be Midgard from Kobold Press, but the themes and goals will be player and character oriented. My play style leans towards plot and narrative driven gaming, with an entertaining amount of puzzles, exploration, and combat. I love getting player input and creativity to help shape and propel the campaign forward. My games have a solid narrative thread that binds them but I never have any qualms about improvising or allowing players the freedom to make the story their own.
The campaign so far deals with an evil book called the Umbral Codex which was split into three parts and hidden away. So far one villain has a third, and a former player character was corrupted when she found the second. Now the third is up for grabs and the party must fight two villains to keep the Codex safe until they can destroy it.

• I have the Kobold Press books in PDF to share with players once you join the campaign
• The characters are currently at 5th Level.
• We already have a Kariv Griffon Knight, a Half Elf Wizard, and a Trollkin Priest of Thor. That leaves a lot of other species / class options available.
• Good and neutral alignments are preferred and will work best with the story. Other alignments are allowable if the character retains a compelling reason to continue working with the party. Once that reason ends, expect the character to be retired from play.
• A well written character will not be at odds with the rest of the party
• Character materials from the official 5E line and Kobold Press’ Midgard line of books are allowable. Other third-party materials are not allowable.
• There will be a mix of premade adventures and homebrew adventures leaning on the side of homebrew

Optional Rules

• Magic items should have a greater mystique, so we are removing the ability to identify the properties of a magic item during a short rest, and require the identify spell, experimentation, research, or a combination to reveal what a magic item does. A short rest may give hints as to the nature of the item from a visual and visceral level of magical understanding.
• Flanking gives combatants a simple way to gain advantage on attack rolls against a common enemy. A creature can't flank an enemy that it can't see. A creature also can't flank while it is incapacitated. A Large or larger creature is flanking as long as at least one square or hex of its space qualifies for flanking.
• Reaching zero hit points will inflict a level of exhaustion.
• Story Based Advancement (DMG pg. 261)
• Feats, although this hardly seems like an optional rule.

Experience

I am experienced in quite a few games including D&D (Classic Boxed, 1st Edition, 2nd Edition, 5th Edition), Fate Core, Dresden Files, Alpha Chronicles, FFG Star Wars, World of Darkness (oWOD & nWOD), Aberrant, Palladium Megaverse, Cypher System, Cyberpunk 2020, Shadowrun, Hackmaster, Top Secret SI, and quite a few others.

Contact Info

Please feel free to contact me on discord ( FangGrip#7572 ) if you are interested in joining or if you have any questions. I would like to have a conversation with all prospective players. This conversation does not guarantee you a slot in the game but will help keep you in mind in case a player chooses to resign or ghost us. There is no impersonal form to fill out, but I will need some basic information.

• Name
• Your age (21+)
• How far away you are from Dale City Virginia
• Experience in gaming, D&D 5E, and the Midgard Setting
• Types of characters you like to play most
• Any character concept you may have
• Style of play you prefer
• Goals and hopes for a campaign
• Things you don’t like in a game
• Why do you think you would be a good match?

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Thank you for reading this post. I know it's fairly long, but I want to save people time by giving you all the information I can think of to help you determine if we are right for you.

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